Being Precious
Precious Chong blogs about co-parenting alongside her ex and his new fiancee
Looking back, one of the things that scared me the most about leaving my marriage was the thought of dating again. I had a baby. I was pushing 40. I was still breastfeeding.
Call me crazy, but dating and breastfeeding just don’t really mix.
Even when I was younger I was always a sporadic dater. I would go on binges of dating two or three guys and then would go cold turkey, exhausted by the neuroses and/or awkward sex.
Dating in Los Angeles can be like that. Just to give you an idea, the last three men I dated before I met Wes, were all on anti-depressants. All three of them. Not that I have anything against anti-depressants, but come on. Read more...
The Good Divorce
A niche way that some couples are getting closure
Divorce ceremonies are a thing. Whether it’s a party with friends and family, or a quiet smashing of the wedding ring, some couples in Japan are opting to mark their failed marriage with more than just a court settlement.
“Pioneer divorce planner” Hiroki Terai recently told the New York Times that since the earthquake, he receives over 200 inquiries a month. Terai chalks this up to people reassessing their priorities. In the simple ceremony that the New York Times writer observed, Terai recited the reasons for the couples’ break up, presented a hammer with which both ex-husband and ex-wife could smash the wedding ring, and had the couple write messages for the future on a lantern. Terai then released the ring and lantern into a river to float away. The ex-wife wrote: “So that our son may grow up well” while her ex-husband wrote: “Let us remain friends.” Read more...
