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TV Moms From Claire Huxtable to Betty Draper to the Dowager Countess Share Their Wisdom

An excellent supercut of TV moms from Flavorwire

Who’s your favourite TV mom? Judging from this supercut, we’d say it’s a toss-up between Lucille Bluth from Arrested Development and Gloria Pritchett from Modern Family. Or maybe we should go with Cersei just because we love seeing Joffrey get slapped. Did they leave anyone out? Where’s Regina from Once Upon a Time? (or maybe wicked stepmothers don’t count?)

george costanza has a conversation with his doll-mother

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Queer as Moms

A Queer Family Holiday All Around My New Year’s Resolution

Meri Perra blogs about the challenges she and her partner face in trying to raise their girls with feminist values
2012 is around the corner and so is, incidentally, the one-year anniversary of
Queer as Moms. Last night, on the way home from Catharine’s family celebration, driving into Toronto, I stepped out of the holiday mental fog, realized what day it was and said: “Queer as Moms, is due tomorrow, what should I write about?”
Catharine said I should write about how queers celebrate Christmas and to
please, please not write about vomit, which it seems I have a habit of doing. Exhibits A, B, C and D. (I think she’s grown weary, since on the way up to her family’s our four-year old got carsick for the first time ever. All I can say is, thank goodness for Tim Hortons’ washrooms and wet wipes. So I’ll abide by my partner’s wishes and not write about you-know-what, which is fine, it just means I also can’t write about the Disney Princess gifts our girls got this year.)
So, just what about our Christmas is queer, other than we’re a part of it? The
holidays are about family, and most queers are experts at creating chosen families. So I’ll talk about mine.
We went to my sister’s in early December to celebrate Christmas. She lives
outside Toronto, with her wife, in a four-bedroom townhouse they bought for the equivalent price of what you would pay for a down payment on a closet in Toronto. She served our traditional Christmas meal, which is an extremely regional dish from Silesia, where my mother was born, in Germany, which became Poland after the Second World War. Wonders of the Internet, it’s described here.
As I’ve written about before, my mom passed in 2009, and her own parents and only sibling had pre-deceased her years before. The point being, no one who’d ever set foot in Silesia was actually at my sister’s celebration, but of course she served our Christmas fishtunke dish anyway.
My parents split up when I was nine, but always raised us together. Our lovingly stubborn, mildly crazy and opinionated Italian father, who hates Berlusconi, food with preservatives “perservants”, but who loves his grandchildren, Peruvian wife and teenage stepson (who has saved me more than once from computer software disasters) were at the table.
My stepmother and stepbrother are committed vegetarians, my stepmother
is Buddhist as a chosen religion and my dear step-bro is a committed atheist,
capitalist and animal rights advocate.
My sister is an artist, a teacher, and is married to a woman who wore her kilt
at their wedding and swears haggis tastes good.
Also at my sister’s table were our cousins. Make that our chosen cousins. Afamily of dea r friends we’ve been celebrating the holidays with for years, whom, like us, don’t have any extended family of their own. They’re also Scottish from way back, though they do not eat haggis.
And of course, there was Uncle A., Catharine’s best friend. He’s one of those
queers who was not united with his family for a long, long time. That’s why he
starting coming to our celebrations. And now, thankfully, he and his mom are
sorting things out.
My Catharine is a British-born mix of several European and South Asian
backgrounds, from a large Catholic family where bunch of siblings, herself included, happened to partner up with Italians. She thinks Christmas is all about the turkey. I don’t. I’m a half-Italian fishtunke eater.
So there we all were, eating my family’s regional German dish, that my sister
has perfected vegetarian style. (Which is nothing short of brilliant, our Christmas fishtunke is a beer sauce made without fish, with lots of ham and sausage, that you pour over meat, potatoes, red cabbage and sauerkraut.)
Some of us met again for a casual potluck on Christmas Eve. My stepmother’s
straight dude construction worker nephew came, and along with good old gay Uncle A, his newly re-united upper-middle class mom. We were at my dad’s and step mom’s crowded two-bedroom East York condo.
A’s mom, who brought gifts for our girls, even though she’d never met
them before, thanked my step mom for inviting her. “But of course,” my step mom said, “You’re family.”
My Buddhist, vegetarian Peruvian stepmother raised a glass, “To family!”
And to Catharine: I hereby resolve to not write about puke (so much) in 2012.
I have a friend who swears our daughter Lileith is a shoe-in Lily for on Modern Family. I say, there are enough similarities between that sitcom
family and mine!
Meri Perra is a community worker-turned-journalist living in Toronto’s Riverdale neighbourhood with her partner and two daughters.
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News and Culture Five

News Round-Up Dec. 6: Jane & Finch Kids Play Squash, Ads That Mock Santa and New Umbilical Cord Research

What we’re reading today:

1. A Swedish study found that newborn babies whose umbilical cords were cut three minutes after they were born instead of right away were less likely to be iron deficient.

2. Some Toronto kids in the Jane-and-Finch-area are trying out squash (the sport) after-school. Awesome. When one of those kids comes to dominate the international squash scene in 10 years or so, we expect a fabulous made-for-CBC movie.

3. KJ Dellantonia at the NYT Motherlode is not down with the new Best Buy ads that mock Santa Claus. We know!! Yeah, we get that some seasonal ads are meant to tug on your heartstrings and some are less subtle in making you buy stuff, but the Best Buy ones are gross. We think we need to write more on this later, but for now, we’re happy that KJ is sticking up for the man in the red suit.

News and Culture Five

News Round-Up Oct. 24: Kids Need Sleep, Kids Need Play and Indian Girls Are Changing Their Names

What we’re reading today:

 

1. Kids need sleep! Lots of it! Don’t let those over-achieving kids of yours choose project perfection over another hour in bed, the latter’s better for their brains.

2. A bunch of Indian girls changed their names, preferring something pretty and/or inspiring rather than the Hindi equivalent of “Unwanted.”

3. Are these the 10 best kid characters on TV? It’s a given that Manny from Modern Family made the cut, but all the kids on that show are so good! Where are Luke, Alex and Haley? At least Luke! (Lily doesn’t count just yet)

4. The importance of play! KaBOOM!’s executive director writes on the Huffington Post that without unstructured play, we might not get another Steve Jobs.

5. This 2-year-old’s dad is overseas, so he makes videos for her.

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News Round-Up September 21: Kids Dropping F-Bombs, Scientology Schools and Julie Bowen on Loving and Hating Kids

What we’re reading today:

 

1. Do your kids swear? Who really gives a f**k amirite?

2. If you’ve ever been curious about a Scientology school, here’s a peak at what Suri Cruise will be doing. (The sculpting thing does sound pretty neat..)

3. Why is Julie Bowen such a good Claire Dunphy on Modern Family? She says if she wasn’t a mom, she wouldn’t get how you can so love your kids, but also sometimes just kind of hate them.

4. But there’s always unconditional love, right? Did you see this soldier who came out to his father in Alabama on the phone yesterday now that Don’t Ask Don’t Tell is no more? That’s a good dad.

5. Book trailers! Check out I Want My Hat Back by Jon Klassen:

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News and Culture Five

News Round-Up September 19: Modern Family Ruled the Emmys, Story Time in Malls and What the Dads Said About That Testosterone Study

What we’re reading today:

 

1. How do you feel about publisher-sponsored story-time in malls when libraries are in danger of so many cuts?

2. Two of our pals, HerBadMother Catherine Connors and PhDinParenting Annie Urban take opposite sides in the great formula advertising debate. Should formula ads be banned, or would banning them make women who have difficulty breastfeeding just feel shameful failures at motherhood?

3. Remember that study that found men’s testosterone levels dropped once they became fathers? Here’s what some dads said.

4. Hoping an anonymous donor will help you grow you very own Weasley? The world’s largest sperm bank is turning away redheads.

5. And who watched (or read the highlights of) the Emmys last night? Modern Family got a whole whack of awards, including best supporting roles for Julie Bowen and Ty Burrell. Let’s look at a classic Phil and Claire moment:

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Up All Night: An Accurate Depiction of Modern Parenthood?

Up All Night is getting it right. Sure seems like it will anyway.

Iconic TV dad Homer Simpson once nailed the reason why we laugh at comedians who talk about the average day-to-day stuff: It’s funny cause it’s true. But does the same hold true for sitcoms and especially sitcom parents? Think back to other iconic TV parents: Cliff and Claire Huxtable, Ward and June Cleaver, Danny Tanner, etc. They had all the answers, virtually always knew when their kids were up to trouble (but super minor trouble) and could neatly supply some sort of essential life lesson at the end of the episode. And when we move away from the “Father Knows Best” model, we get the lovable oafs like our pal Homer whose kids are much, much smarter than him. And sure, it’s funny, but it’s not true.